Why Am I Always So Horny?

 

Men are very active sexual beings. Our body is designed in such a way that it rarely requires much to be aroused. Unlike women, men can be aroused by the slightest sexual inclination. The smell of your partner’s clothes, hair, smile, body shape, and in some cases, just being female is all men need to be sexually aroused.

Jason Burnett gave quite a speech on the issue on Quora. He said, “It could be described as your genetic predisposition to look for sex as an expression of natural selection and diversification of the species as presented in the original male prototype of the primordial ooze” (1); long story short, men are naturally inclined always to be sexually active.

While there are unhealthy extremities, which we will discuss later in the article, it is important to state at this point that male sexual arousal is very healthy. You should be worried if you don’t get aroused often; you are either aged or have a very low libido.

Since we’ve mentioned libido, we would like to point out that a man does not need to have high libido before he can experience constant arousal. While high libido can cause constant arousal, it doesn’t mean you have high libido if you are always horny.

 

Why you are always horny

 

Sexual arousal or being horny is one thing we rarely have control over. You can barely have a say in how and when it ‘comes.’ While there are a lot of factors that can lead to it, such as your environment, a peculiar situation (like sitting next to a hot girl), or just a random line of thought, there are so many things that can make you horny.

To be honest, it can be a burden if it gets too much. A natural response to male sexual arousal is the erection of the penis. Imagine having that little member tugging at your pants for most of the day or at every slight ‘provocation.’ It can even be embarrassing at times, especially when it disturbs your work or when you are in a place where it is not possible to stuff the erect penis in between the thighs.

We know how complicated it can be when you are always aroused sexually. So, let’s talk about it.

What are some of the reasons why you’re always horny?

 

1. Hormones

Hormones greatly influence your libido. There is a never-ending cycle that hormones and being horny maintains. An increase in the hormone testosterone leads to an increase in your sexual arousal and being horny boosts the level of the testosterone hormone. 

Testosterone levels can be increased through regular exercise or hitting puberty, among many others (2).

 

2. Aphrodisiac foods

foods that make you horny

With aphrodisiac foods, you can “eat your way to horniness.” These are foods that boost arousal and increase sexual pleasure. You could be dieting on aphrodisiacs by accident without even knowing (3).

Foods such as pistachio nuts and spices, herbs like saffron, maca, and fenugreek have aphrodisiac qualities. It has also been confirmed that foods like chocolate, honey, and oysters are aphrodisiacs, though there are still debates if they are true aphrodisiacs (3). 

Aphrodisiacs contain vitamins and minerals that improve health all-round, and most importantly, sexual health.

 

3. Alcohol and drug

You should have found out by now that much intake of alcoholic drinks can make you feel horny. So if you go to the bar and take up many bottles of beer regularly, you should not be surprised with why you might always be feeling horny.

There are a lot of complications in the use of alcohol as it relates to the sexual drive. In a journal published in 1995 titled Recent Developments in Alcoholism, a part of the review reads, “Alcohol consumption increases subjective sexual desire, arousal… though it also lowers physiological arousal (2).

Generally, alcohol loosens up your inhibitions and leaves you feeling a bit more frisky than you would be if you were sober (4).

 

4. Energy from a new relationship

Yes, let’s face it. Your emotions can be very intense when you’re new in a relationship. Sometimes it might not be a relationship; it may just be a craving for attention. Whether it’s a new relationship or attention-craving, there is always this exciting and adventurous energy. This energy can get you feeling all filled up with emotion and sexual desire (3).

Researches along this line have shown that emotional energy from the new relationship can make you more horny than usual. 

 

5. Seasonal changes

Studies show that the male testosterone level (and, of course, libido) drops in the summer. In comparison, it gets to its peak in the fall. This draws a connection between sex drive and seasonal changes.

Also, moods can affect sex drive. If you are seasonally depressed, you might notice a drop in libido during these periods. So also, excitements and constant lively and gay feelings can make you horny.

 

6. Situational factors

Some situations we find ourselves in can set our emotions running. As mentioned, new relationships are a big situational factor that can make you want to get laid.

Some other situations that can trigger off your testosterone activity are:

  • Erotically charged situations
  • Being around sexy women or those you find sexually attractive
  • Seeing erotic movies
  • Reading erotic books
  • Listening to sexually stimulating songs or words.

Naturally, you get horny when you are around women you find attractive. This is heightened if you two are flirty or touchy with each other. “Being around people you think are hot is creating your micro-erotic climate. You will find it hornier because those people are acting as activating events for your desire,” says Gigi Engle, a certified sex coach.

Erotically charged situations can be sitting next to a hot lady, sexting, dirty talking, or watching erotic materials. These situations can make you get horny always if you constantly engage in them.

 

7. Masturbation

Man masturbating

Just about anyone can get horny from frequent masturbation. Studies have shown that those who masturbate often are most sexually active and get horny frequently.

 

8. Constant contact

Since men’s anatomy is designed to have their penis outside the body, constant genital contact such as rubbing, brushing, tugging, and touching can make you horny. For most men, a slight brush can flicker sexual thoughts (3).

 

What to do if you are always horny

 

There are ways to curb this constant horniness if you are worried about it. It is healthy to be horny. The major issue is not that you’re horny, but what matters is what you do or how you go about it.

 

1. Have sex

If you are feeling horny always and your partner is consenting, have sex. Frequent intimacy can boost the satisfaction in a relationship and improve the state of health, lowering stress, increasing cognitive functioning, and many more benefits, says Sara Sloan, a sex therapist, Ph.D., LMFT-A. Sex also helps regulate your hormones; with regular sex, you feel fulfilled, and the unquenchable cravings die down.

 

2. Work out

Through physical engagement, constant working out can help your body achieve both emotional and psychological balance. This can greatly decrease sexual tension. Since exercise releases the same hormones and chemicals as sexual activity, it can help divert your energy to productive and healthy endeavors (4).

Exercises lower stress and release feel-good hormones; this can help release built-up sexual tension in the body.

 

3. Hobby it out

Most of what you spend time on daily tends to become part of your life over time. More idle time or time spent fantasizing can be the reason why you’re always horny.

What about changing your focus? You would be surprised how your brain and body can forget about sexual arousal when you are neck-deep in your passion or hobby.

You can be creative. Channel your energy from sex-related things to volunteer opportunities, charity organizations, NGOs, etc.

 

4. Try meditation

man meditating to reduce horniness

“Mindfulness meditations are meant to help people connect with their breath and focus on the present moment” (2).

Meditation has been used to treat many forms of addictions, so it can help you get over your erections. Most compulsive sexual behaviors are treated with mindfulness meditations, especially when these behaviors begin to interfere with your everyday life.

When channeled properly, meditation can be a great means of being busy and thinking less about thoughts or things that make you horny.

 

5. What about your current relationship?

Determine if you are happy with the relationship you are in at the moment (that is, you’re in a relationship). Do you enjoy sex with your partner? Do you feel fulfilled?

Answering these questions would go a long way to determine what is responsible for your frequent horniness. When you get less from your relationship, you may be trying to blow off steam, but you’re not getting a channel.

You might need to sit down and think about whether the relationship is what you want. Breaking off a relationship you don’t enjoy might help reduce the rate at which you get horny (3).

 

You are horny, but your partner isn’t — What to do?

Man trying to force sex and his girlfriend denying

It can be very challenging to cope with a partner who is not always in the mood. If you are always horny, but your partner is rarely, she must have a low sex drive, and you should help her get in the mood. Our article on foreplay talks much about how you can use foreplay to get a woman aroused.

For most women, sex isn’t always in the cards. If you have mastered the art of making your partner horny before sexual intercourse, then you are at the top of your game. If she still doesn’t want sex, you should respect her decision but be sure to share how you feel with her.

 

Can you be too horny?

 

Do you feel you’re way too horny? Well, it’s not necessarily a bad thing to be horny frequently. Sexual drive is a healthy thing, as is sexual activity (4).

If you are worried about your constant arousal, especially if it’s getting in the way of your normal life, then you should consider talking with a doctor or sex therapist.

All addictions are compulsive behaviors and are not healthy. Your sexual drive should, to some extent, be under control and not run loose. If you feel you are overly horny, you need help.

High compulsive sexual behavior may result from hypersexual disorder (more about this in the need section).

What turns one person on may be different from another’s, so also the levels. Some people may have more control over their bodies and sex drive than others. While this may result from natural abilities, others may be hinged on the level of exposure, experience, mental and self-development levels, etc. If you notice you have less control over your arousals, see a sex therapist.

 

What about Hypersexuality?

 

Hypersexuality is defined as the inability to regulate sexual behavior that has become a source of significant personal distress (2).

Though this concept is debated among sexual health experts, the bottom line is: your sexuality and desire should not be distressingly out of your control; if it is, it is a compulsive behavior that can lead to self-harm. You should see a therapist. 

“It is understood that out-of-control sexual behavior, as referred to by skilled professionals, is a thing, but it’s not a disease as such. It’s about a balanced relationship with sexuality, pleasure, values, and emotions.”

 

As we wrap it up…

 

There are a lot of things that could make men always hornier than normal. Some of these factors can be controlled, like what we eat, how frequently we masturbate, etc. Some of these factors, such as hormonal fluctuations or seasonal changes, can’t be controlled.

It is vital to recognize and accept that you’re just human, and being horny is a healthy part of our sexual life. Unless it is interfering with your daily activities, just go about your life. Feelings come and go. You are not an exception. 

 

References

  1. https://www.quora.com/Why-am-I-constantly-horny-male
  2. https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/why-am-i-so-horny
  3. https://greatist.com/health/why-am-i-always-horny#everyone-gets-horny
  4. https://www.healthline.com/health/why-am-i-always-horny#general